If women are not masturbating, they are really missing out! It is 100% safe, feels great and it's good for you. It relieves sexual tension, which women of all ages have the need for. Masturbation begins with self exploration. If you don't explore yourself how will you know what you like? It will teach you how to achieve your maximum sexual pleasure. You can't rely on the guy figuring it all out on his own, it just doesn't happen, he has no idea what it feels like to you.
Begin by exploring yourself, take a hand mirror and explore the unexplored down there! It might seem like a scary thing, but if you don't know where all the parts are and what they do, you're going to have a tough time learning to enjoy yourself.
Don't look at your vulva and think of it as ugly, it's not! You do not need reconstructive surgery, you are who you are and it's a beautiful thing. If you haven't figured out everything down there, take a look at the anatomy section for a quick learning session, then you'll be ready to go.
Beginning Your Sexual PleasureThat saying "different strokes for different folks" absolutely applies here. What I like might be completely different from what you like. Which is why this self exploration is so important! Start off by running your fingers over your clitoris, you can vary the speed and pressure, try soft, light brushes or hard, fast strokes. Keep doing this, practice makes perfect!
You can try using a vibrator, a pillow, a hand held shower head, just your hands, combination of the mentioned, or alternative props...just make sure they are safe.
Try out different positions and techniques. The point of this isn't to reach orgasm your very first time, if you do, then that's great! But you're learning what turns you on and what you find pleasing. Obviously if you find something you like, stick with it. You can always experiment and try other things later on.
It Can Be Hard To Get In The Mood
There are a lot of things you can do to get in the mood. Basically it will be up to personal preference. Start with what you think is romantic. Is it candle light, a bubble bath, soft music? You just want to create an atmosphere that you are comfortable in and don't feel self-conscious in. Pick a location, maybe it's the bath tub, your bed, or somewhere more public (if you're into that).
Most women like the lights dimmed or turned off, this way there are no distractions and they can concentrate on the pleasurable feeling. Remember not to make the goal an orgasm, if you focus on that you will feel as if you can't achieve it, and then it's going to be far harder or impossible. Focus only on the pleasure!