~ We are women of the world, come from poverty, illiteracy, circumcision, shame ~ We are telling our stories and sharing our lives ~ So that never again can the truth be denied ~ We've untied our tongues and we're speaking out loud ~ We've unbound our feet and we're marching toward freedom ~ We are teaching each other and claiming our power ~ Together, we're building a better tomorrow ~ Sweet Honey In The Rock
Stupid Girls
Monday, April 16, 2007
Our Prejudices, Ourselves
April 13, 2007Op-Ed Contributor
Our Prejudices, Ourselves
By HARVEY FIERSTEIN
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AMERICA is watching Don Imus’s self-immolation in a state of shock and awe. And I’m watching America with wry amusement.
Since I’m a second-class citizen — a gay man — my seats for the ballgame of American discourse are way back in the bleachers. I don’t have to wait long for a shock jock or stand-up comedian to slip up with hateful epithets aimed at me and mine. Hate speak against homosexuals is as commonplace as spam. It’s daily traffic for those who profess themselves to be regular Joes, men of God, public servants who live off my tax dollars, as well as any number of celebrities.
In fact, I get a good chuckle whenever someone refers to “the media” as an agent of “the gay agenda.” There are entire channels, like Spike TV, that couldn’t fill an hour of programming if required to remove their sexist and homophobic content. We’ve got a president and a large part of Congress willing to change the Constitution so they can deprive of us our rights because they feel we are not “normal.”
So I’m used to catching foul balls up here in the cheap seats. What I am really enjoying is watching the rest of you act as if you had no idea that prejudice was alive and well in your hearts and minds.
For the past two decades political correctness has been derided as a surrender to thin-skinned, humorless, uptight oversensitive sissies. Well, you anti-politically correct people have won the battle, and we’re all now feasting on the spoils of your victory. During the last few months alone we’ve had a few comedians spout racism, a basketball coach put forth anti-Semitism and several high-profile spoutings of anti-gay epithets.
What surprises me, I guess, is how choosy the anti-P.C. crowd is about which hate speech it will not tolerate.
Sure, there were voices of protest when the TV actor Isaiah Washington called a gay colleague a “faggot.” But corporate America didn’t pull its advertising from “Grey’s Anatomy,” as it did with Mr. Imus, did it? And when Ann Coulter likewise tagged a presidential candidate last month, she paid no real price.
In fact, when Bill Maher discussed Ms. Coulter’s remarks on his HBO show, he repeated the slur no fewer than four times himself; each mention, I must note, solicited a laugh from his audience. No one called for any sort of apology from him. (Well, actually, I did, so the following week he only used it once.)
Face it, if a Pentagon general, his salary paid with my tax dollars, can label homosexual acts as “immoral” without a call for his dismissal, who are the moral high and mighty kidding?
Our nation, historically bursting with generosity toward strangers, remains remarkably unkind toward its own. Just under our gleaming patina of inclusiveness, we harbor corroding guts. America, I tell you that it doesn’t matter how many times you brush your teeth. If your insides are rotting your breath will stink. So, how do you people choose which hate to embrace, which to forgive with a wink and a week in rehab, and which to protest? Where’s my copy of that rule book?
Let me cite a non-volatile example of how prejudice can cohabit unchecked with good intentions. I am a huge fan of David Letterman’s. I watch the opening of his show a couple of times a week and have done so for decades. Without fail, in his opening monologue or skit Mr. Letterman makes a joke about someone being fat. I kid you not. Will that destroy our nation? Should he be fired or lose his sponsors? Obviously not.
But I think that there is something deeper going on at the Letterman studio than coincidence. And, as I’ve said, I cite this example simply to illustrate that all kinds of prejudice exist in the human heart. Some are harmless. Some not so harmless. But we need to understand who we are if we wish to change. (In the interest of full disclosure, I should confess to not only being a gay American, but also a fat one. Yes, I’m a double winner.)
I urge you to look around, or better yet, listen around and become aware of the prejudice in everyday life. We are so surrounded by expressions of intolerance that I am in shock and awe that anyone noticed all these recent high-profile instances. Still, I’m gladdened because our no longer being deaf to them may signal their eventual eradication.
The real point is that you cannot harbor malice toward others and then cry foul when someone displays intolerance against you. Prejudice tolerated is intolerance encouraged. Rise up in righteousness when you witness the words and deeds of hate, but only if you are willing to rise up against them all, including your own. Otherwise suffer the slings and arrows of disrespect silently.
Harvey Fierstein is an actor and playwright.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/04/13/opinion/13fierstein.html
Saturday, March 24, 2007
"Gays are Hated. Prove Me Wrong."
"Gays are hated. Prove me wrong"
Wednesday, March 21, 2007 / 10:27 AM SUMMARY: Activist/author Larry Kramer, on the occasion of ACT UP's 20th birthday, asks Americans how they can stay silent about anti-gay discrimination.
Gay activist and author Larry Kramer's emotional open letter to the American public, published in Tuesday's Los Angeles Times, posed a challenge: "Gays are hated. Prove me wrong."
Kramer spoke last week at New York's Gay & Lesbian Center, celebrating the 20th anniversary of ACT UP, a grass-roots AIDS organization, and protesting the U.S. military's adherence to "don't ask, don't tell."
In a follow-up letter, Kramer asked Americans how they can stay silent on gay issues.
"Your top general just called us 'immoral.' http://www.planetout.com/news/article.html?2007/03/13/1 Marine General Peter Pace, chairman of the Joint Chiefs, is in charge of an estimated 65,000 gay and lesbian troops, some fighting for our country in Iraq."
"A right-wing political commentator, Ann Coulter, gets away with calling a straight presidential candidate a 'faggot.' http://www.planetout.com/news/article.html?2007/03/05/2 Even Garrison Keillor, of all people, is making really tacky jokes about gay parents in his column." http://www.planetout.com/news/article.html?2007/03/20/6
"This, I guess, does not qualify as hate except that it is so distasteful and dumb, often a first step on the way to hate. Senators Hillary Rodham Clinton and Barack Obama tried to duck the questions that Pace's bigotry raised, confirming what gay people know -- that there is not one candidate running for public office anywhere who dares to come right out, unequivocally, and say decent, supportive things about us."
". . . You may say you don't hate us, but the people you vote for do, so what's the difference? Our own country's democratic process declares us to be unequal. Which means, in a democracy, that our enemy is you. You treat us like crumbs. You hate us. And sadly, we let you."
The letter was originally titled "A Letter to America's Heterosexuals" and retitled by the L.A. Times "Why do straights hate gays? An aging 72-year-old man isn't hopeful about the future."
Blogger Andy Towle criticized the headline as an insult to Kramer's 30-year contribution to the gay community.
"Whether or not you agree with Kramer's approach, you would think that the paper could find a bit more respect in its description of the longtime activist," Towle wrote.
"After all, his work with ACT UP was a major force in getting the AIDS epidemic the attention it deserved at crucial moments throughout the crisis."
Kramer has been a gay rights and HIV/AIDS advocate since the early 1970s.
http://www.planetout.com/news/article.html?2001/04/02/4
His 1978 novel, "Faggots," is one of the best-selling gay novels of all time, but was criticized upon its publication by other gay activists for its graphic depiction of anonymous sex and recreational drug use.
Kramer lived in London for nine years between 1961 and 1970, where he co-produced and co-wrote the film "Here We Go Round the Mulberry Bush."
Recipient of the American Academy of Arts and Letters' Award in Literature, Kramer has also been honored with a Public Service Award from the U.S. political lobby group Common Cause. (Hassan Mirza, Gay.com U.K.)
Thursday, March 08, 2007
To the "gay guys" at Sunsilk
You are reading http://viridianariverstone.blogspot.com/.
This campaign is racist. Most women of color are not blondes.
The caustic comments between women, based on hair color, pander to the ridiculous notion that women should compete, attack each other and hate each other, for the approval of men, based on their marketability as sex objects.
The nasty comments regarding such things as intelligence, facial hair, etc. are designed to feed in to women's worst insecurities about body dysmorphia. Women have facial hair; that's natural. To make it the butt of "jokes" is cruel and adds to the abuse any woman can get, any time, on any street in this nation.
It's teaching young girls, in particular, to hate themselves and to believe that only by buying unnecessary products will they achieve self esteem through public acceptance.
To have a so-called "gay" man scream shrill insults at strangers on the street is a homophobic stereotype. I hate it.
I just discovered that both "Sunsilk" and "Dove" are owned by Unilever. So the "Dove Real Beauty" campaign is a sham, fueled by the woman-hating campaigns of Sunsilk.
http://marketiq.biz360.com/2006/08/sunsilk-hairapy-vs-dove-real-beauty/
I hate your advertising promotions so much that I had to do a Google search, just to find out the name of this product, Sunsilk.
The second the ads come on, I change channels on my TV. I don't want to be subjected to homophobic stereotypes and mysogynistic comments in my own home.
As a result, I am now doing research into all Unilever products, so I'll be sure never to buy them.
Has any of you ever been physically assaulted by a gang of teenage boys on the back of a public bus because you don't match the advertisers' concept of what is acceptable, physical appearance? I have. Your campaigns encourage superficial prejudices, based on physical appearance.
You will NOT profit from me!
"Dr." Denese infomercial on PBS
PBS is supposed to inform. I watched, in horror, as this "Dr." spoke of "using science," yet never educated the public in the specific, scientific basis for her arguments. Instead, she referred to applications with so-called, "power" ingredients, never stating what those were or in what proportions they would be used.
I saw her pander to the most base self-hatred and body image dysmorphia among women in this culture.
I also saw that NOBODY on this so-called "special" was a woman of color. And of course, there were no men!
This program was geared to upper middle class white women of privilege who waste tons of money, time and attention on an irrelevent issue.
It certainly wasn't in the best interests of women. And PBS has a dirth of programming on women's issues.
And her "science" is flawed. At no point did she ever address issues of diet and hydration. Drinking water was never even mentioned!
She hawks her junk on QVC and the shopping network. She should stay there and let programming be better developed for serious women's issues, science and health programming.
How can I ever trust PBS again?
Monday, February 26, 2007
She keeps betraying my trust
school for girls in South Africa.
I always wanted to start a school. And my work with the kids in the War
Zone was so important to me. It killed me when the city condemned the
house and threw me into the street.
She knows all that.
It's always about her interests, projects, needs, etc. I always play
second fiddle, am required to put my needs aside. Her job, school, body
dysmorphia, hypocondria and self-obsession always come first.
She can't conceive of treating me with minimum respect.
I emailed her this:
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&ie=ISO-8859-1&q=english+%2B%22south+africa%22
The least important aspect of the program tonight was why the girls
spoke English.
You repeatedly interrupted the MOST important part of the program, the
girls' own stories, to obsess on it.
I told you to look it up. You were sitting RIGHT by a computer with
internet access.
You would not let me hear the girts' stories, and that's exactly why I
wanted to watch the program.
Other than your obsession with that issue, you had no interest in the
program, except to put down Oprah.
I wasn't watching Oprah; I was watching the girls. They're the story.
Your behavior was disrespectful and disruptive. I don't frequently
express much interest in promotions for tv programming. I did for this
special, and told you so over several days.
You KNEW this was important to me.
I don't ask for much, but I do provide a lot. I wanted to see that
program, to enjoy and savor it.
You poisoned it. I think you did it intentionally.
I seldom ask for your emotional support. I needed it tonight.
As usual, you were not only not there for me, but you acted like I was
torturing you, just because I wanted to have you actually stand within
my line of vision while I spoke to you. You made faces; you groaned; you
sighed heavily; you rolled your eyes. You made it very clear you didn't
even want to listen to me.
Tonight was an incredible opportunity for us to bond, discuss something
profoundly important to the health of the world. You threw it away.
I give up. Nothing I do to support, help and encourage you will ever be
enough to earn your respect. You will never treat me as an equal. You
will always treat me as a threat to your well being.
I quit. You're on your own.
Thursday, February 22, 2007
NM domestic partner legislation
HB603: Domestic Partner Rights And Responsibilities Act Scheduled for Hearing on Friday, February 23 at 1:30 pm
HB 603 is scheduled for public hearing in the House Judiciary Committee this Friday, February 20, 2007 at 1:30 pm in Room 309 at the Roundhouse. Once again, we will need people to attend the hearing.
Assuming HB603 passes House Judiciary, it will likely be heard on the House Floor next Wednesday, February 28. (It is possible that the hearing on the House Floor could be scheduled for Tuesday February 27th, but at this point Wednesday is our best estimate.) As soon as we receive confirmation on the hearing date, we will let you know. We will need to fill the Gallery with our supporters!
TELL THE LEGISLATORS TO SUPPORT NEW MEXICAN FAMILIES BY VOTING FOR HB603
The pace is picking up, and EQNM needs you to take action. We need people to participate in our online campaigns, but we also need people to make phone calls and personal visits to the legislators!!!!
If you are willing to visit the Roundhouse to speak one on one with legislators, please contact our Executive Director, Alexis Blizman at 505-224-2766. She will be glad to meet you there (schedule permitting) or at least go over talking points and how to find the legislators that we need to put pressure on.
Help Pass Domestic Partner Benfits By Donating Now To Equality New Mexicos Lobbying Efforts! Below is a list of legislators who we believe are either on the fence about supporting HB603 or who may be swayable. All of them need to be contacted multiple times and asked for their support. We need all of you to call their offices, visit them between now and next Tuesday, and tell them why they should support this important legislation. We know this is more time consuming than the online campaigns we have been asking you to participate in so far this session, but your efforts can make a huge difference. We have a good chance of getting HB603 through the House, but we need all of your help to do it.
Sample message to legislator (if you are making a phone call you will likly speak to a secretary. This is fine the keep a record of how many peopkle call to support a specific piece of legislation):
Hello, My name is _______ I am calling to ask Representative _______ to support House Bill 603 the Domestic Partner Rights and Responsiblites Act. This legislation will provide many protections that my family as well as numerous other New Mexican families desperately need.
Thank you and I urge Representative ______ to vote yes on HB603.
Rep. Janice Arnold-Jones (R, Bernaillo-24) 505.986.4451
Rep. Elias Barela (D, Valencia-8) 505.986-4254
Rep. Andrew Barreras (D, Valencia-7) 505.986.4243
Rep. Joseph Cervantes (D, Dona Ana-52) 505.986.4249
Rep. Mary Helen Garcia (D, Dona Ana-34) 505.986.4435
Rep. Roberto Bobby Gonzales (D, Taos-42) 505.986.4235
Rep. Manuel Herrera (D-Grants-39) 505.986.4233
Rep. Dona Irwin (D-Luna-32) 505.986.4249
Rep. Ben Lujan (D-Santa Fe-46) 505.986.4782
Rep. Andy Nunez (D-Dona Ana-36) 505.986.4423
Rep. Jane E. Powdrell-Culbert (R-Sandoval-44) 505.986.4467
Rep. Debbie Rodella (D-Rio Arriba, Sandoval & Taos-41) 505.986.4329
Rep. Dan Silva (D-Bernalillo-13) 505.986.4425
Thank you in advance for all of your hard work and dedication. Passing HB603 is an uphill battle for us all, but with your help, it is possible! ___________________________ Equality New Mexico is fighting for full civil rights for ALL New Mexicans.
Please help us continue the fight. Make a donation today at our secure website at http://www.eqnm.org/donate.html or send a check to EQNM 1410 Coal Ave SW, Albuquerque, NM 87104.
Sunday, February 18, 2007
Paula Gunn Allen benefit
> > Contact: Kerrie Lynn
> > (404) 524-0304
> > Charis Books, Atlanta
> >
> > NATIVE WOMEN WRITERS READ AT BENEFIT FOR PAULA GUNN
> > ALLEN
> >
> > Seven Native women writers will read Friday, March 2,
> > at 8 PM at Charis Books.
>
> The reading is in honor of
> > Paula Gunn Allen, the Laguna writer whose
> > groundbreaking study The Sacred Hoop, established the
> > field of Native feminist studies. Gunn Allen's home
> > was destroyed by a fire in October, and she has been
> > hospitalized as a result of injuires sustained in it.
> >
> > Paula Gunn Allen's many honors include an American
> > Book Award for her 1990 Spider Woman's Granddaughters:
> > Traditional Tales and Contemporary Writing, a National
> > Endowment for the Arts Fellowship, and the Lifetime
> > Achievement Award from the Native Writers Circle of
> > the Americas. A scholar and a creative writer, her
> > many books include Life is a Fatal Disease: Collected
> > Poems 1962-1995, The Woman Who Owned the Shadows, and
> > Grandmothers of the Light: A Medicine Woman's
> > Sourcebook. She received her M.F.A. from the
> > University of Oregon and her Ph.D. from the University
> > of New Mexico. After a distinguished teaching career,
> > including professorships at UCLA, Berkeley, and the
> > University of New Mexico, she retired in 1999.
> > Writers participating in the event include Kimberly
> > Blaeser (Anishnabe), Allison Hedge Coke (Tsalagi /
> > Huron), Heid Erdrich (Anishnabe), Diane Glancy
> > (Cherokee), LeAnne Howe (Choctaw), Evelina Lucero
> > (Isleta /San Juan Pueblo), Janet McAdams (Alabama
> > Creek), and Deborah Miranda (Esselen/Chumash). The
> > writers will read from Gunn Allen's as well as their
> > own work.
> >
> > Each of the poets has recently published a volume of
> > poetry in Salt Publishing's Earthworks series of
> > indigenous writers. Erdrich's The Mother's Tongue,
> > Glancy's Rooms, Howe's Evidence of Red , and
> > Miranda's The Zen of La Llorona appeared in 2005, the
> > inaugural year of the new Earthworks series. New books
> > include Blaeser's Apprenticed to Justice and Hedge
> > Coke's Blood Run. Series editor McAdams will also read
> > from a new collection, Feral. Novelist Lucero will
> > read from her award-winning Night Sky, Morning Star.
> >
> > More information, including directions, can be found
> > on the Charis Books website at
> > http://charis.booksense.com or by calling (404)
> > 524-0304. Gunn Allen's books will be available for
> > purchase, and donations will be requested for the
> > Paula Gunn Allen Fund. Admission is free.
> >
> >
> > ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
> > http://www.janetmcadams.org
Monday, February 05, 2007
Gender ID Assault
Police arrest six in connection with bizarre, disgusting beating
Last Update: 02/02/2007 8:01:28 PM
By: Todd Dukart
An Albuquerque man is recovering after police say he was beaten in an incident with details that are rather disgusting.
Police say the 19-year-old man got into a scuffle with some friends that soon turned into an attack.
“He was confronted and basically overpowered,” said Albuquerque police spokesperson Trish Hoffman. “They started kicking and punching him, then threatened him with a knife.”
They forced the man into a dress, police say, put make-up on him, forced a sex toy into his mouth and rubbed dog feces on him.
The suspects stole his wallet and watch, police say.
The victim was released from the hospital on Friday. The suspects could face felony charges.
Friday, February 02, 2007
Refused Rape Services
21-year-old woman in Tampa Florida, just had to endure.
Please act now by rushing the enclosed petition to your state
governor to ensure rape survivors in your state are not denied
access to emergency contraception.
http://www.ppaction.org/campaign/ec_florida/uidius4o6j7i8j?
Here's what this young woman went through:
Raped as she returned to her car after attending a local parade,
she escaped and reported the attack to local police. As she was
being interviewed, police discovered she had an outstanding
four-year-old warrant for failing to pay a fine related to an
incident when she was a juvenile.
Just hours after being raped, she was handcuffed and hauled off
to jail. But it gets worse. A jail worker blocked this young
woman from taking emergency contraception to prevent pregnancy,
stopping her from taking the required second dose for more than
24 hours longer than recommended.
The reason: the jail supervisor doesn't "believe" in emergency
contraception.
Will you join me in asking your governor to ensure that women in
your state have access to emergency contraception?
http://www.ppaction.org/campaign/ec_florida/uidius4o6j7i8j?
This is not the first time a rape survivor has been treated so
outrageously. But we need to insist that it should be the last
in Florida or anywhere else in the country. Please act right
now.
Sincerely,
Cecile Richards, Planned Parenthood Federation of America
*************************************************
Tell A Friend:
http://www.ppaction.org/campaign/ec_florida/forward/uidius4o6j7i8j?
Learn More: http://www.ppaction.org/ct/W7aaFl91CSe9/
Lots of winter projects
here in Albuquerque all the way to Kansas City and back. We're shooting
video for an Independent Study project of hers at college. It'll be a
video documentary, based on a radio play she produced several years ago.
So, the truck needs cleaning out; bedding and cooking utensils need
washing; goats & chickens need extra feed (so do cats). Clothes need
packing; cameras need batteries, film, etc.
It's a lot of work. As usual, she can't help, because she works full
time and has other classes, too.
It's her last semester. She'll graduate, with honors, in May. Maybe then
I can fall apart! I've never known her without tremendous pressure on
her.
Besides all that, Dudette at http://net4tv.com Games has offered me a
job, writing about WebTV stuff for her users. I'll have a blog; it'll
have a forum, so readers can reply, etc. I'm also helping her set up
online greeting cards and email signatures.
So, I've been awful busy!
BTW: I'll be gone from the 9th through the 19th of February. We're
taking the WebTV and a small TV set with us. We'll periodically stay in
hotels. That way, we can post still photos online, check email, etc.
I'll try to post in my newsgroup and blogs then, but who knows?
Mostly, we'll be sleeping in the truck, on an air mattress, in February.
We go through Colorado, Oklahoma, Kansas, Missouri and, of course, New
Mexico. Nothing like a camping trip, in the DEAD OF WINTER! brrr.
Wednesday, January 31, 2007
Abortion: Is it possible to be pro-life and pro-choice?
Group: news:alt.discuss.politics.liberal
Date: Wed, Jan 31, 2007, 7:42am
From: (Rogi Riverstone)
"Partian birth" abortion is misnamed. It implies the baby would have
lived, if nobody had interfered.
These are late-term pregnancies of horribly deformed babies, who will
not survive without nutrients from the mothers' bodies. They will die,
outside the womb. Even though they will not have normal -- or even
functionally below normal -- brain function, they will die agonizing
deaths.
Now, that's only the "living" babies.
Most of these late term procedures are done on babies WHO ARE DEAD
inside the mother!
The safest way to remove the dead tissue (which can kill the mother) is
by removing it vaginally, in pieces.
It is a horrible situation. The mother is grieving the death of her
child. Her health and life are in tremendous danger. And the state is
telling her doctor not to perform a necessary, medical procedure to save
her life.
So, doctors are having to perform emergency C-sections to remove these
dead babies. This puts the mother at greater risk of dying, as it cuts
open her belly and her uterus. She is probably already compromised. She
may suffer blood poisoning, from the dead baby inside her. Interfering
with her circulation, by cutting into her, can spread the poisons and
kill her.
These procedures are RARELY done and then only in emergencies.
I thought the Conservatives believed in keeping the government out of
our lives? Why does that not pertain to women's bodies, and the medical
professionals who CARE for women's bodies?
Tuesday, January 30, 2007
PlayInk, San Francisco
I found her because she has me listed under "family" in her favorites!
http://www.playink.com/me/morefavs.htm
Wanted: Brave LGBTQ Youth
Reward: Ten Thousand Dollars Each!> > > > >
The Colin Higgins Foundation is requesting nominations for its> annual Youth> Courage Awards. Each year the Colin Higgins Foundation salutes> LGBTQ> individuals who demonstrate courage in the face of adversity and> discrimination based on gender and/or sexual orientation.> >
Many LGBTQ Youth grow up in family, school and community> environments that> threaten their well being. They find themselves ostracized,> marginalized,> in psychological or even physical danger. Colin Higgins Foundation> Youth> Courage Award winners rise above such circumstances to inspire> others by> taking action, rallying support, and working to transform the> systems and> institutions that impact their lives.> >
This year the Foundation will be awarding $10,0 00 grants to:> > * Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Two-Spirit, Queer and> Questioning youth (through age 24) who have bravely stood up to> hostility> and intolerance based on their gender and/or sexual orientation and> triumphed over bigotry through working for LGBTQ rights and social> justice.> > > >
The deadline for all nominations is 5pm (Pacific Standard Time)> Friday,> March 2, 2007. Late nominations will not be accepted. The> Foundation> encourages all nominations to be made via the online submission> tool, which> can be found at: > http://www.colinhiggins.org/courageawards/nomin_mat.cfm or
www.colinhiggins.org http://%20/%20/www.colinhiggins.org/ .
Tuesday, January 23, 2007
spectacular specula
Subject:
Spectacular Specula
http://www.fwhc.org/health/specula.htm
I've had a speculum since I was 17.
I'd run away from a VERY psychotic mother and was living in Venice
Beach, Ca, during the seventies.
There, I met quite a few of those "seventies feminists." They saved my
life. They taught me to take care of myself: balance a check book,
change my own tires & oil, get an education, etc. They taught me not to
be a "typical female:" a victim of circumstances, dependent on men who
might exploit me.
Most young, blonde, pretty women who run away from home and end up in
Los Angeles end up: dead, addicted or pimped. Usually, all three.
We learned self-examinations together. The Boston Women's Health
Collective had just published the book, _Our Bodies, Ourselves_ . I
still own my first-edition copy.
Most women have no idea how their bodies work, or even what they look
like. And many think they're ugly.
I've been very fortunate.
Sunday, September 24, 2006
soft core for children?
Letter to editor:
I really resent all the ads with bare-breasted women. I didn't sign up for soft-core porn, for one thing. For another thing, it sends a TERRIBLE message to little girls, in particular, but also to little boys: a woman's only value is to pleasure men? One of the ads was for so-called, "intimate dating." That's sex hook-ups, in case you didn't know. If children are seeing these ads, I won't be able to recommend Marapets to any friends, adult or child. There are lots of healthy things to sell on Marapets. Women's breasts shouldn't be used this way; their purpose is the feeding of babies. Anything else is perverse, obscene and insulting to women.
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
physician, heal thyself
I went to his website today, looking to see what happened to a VERY abusive couple who torture their children. I think they ought to have called the police and had them arrested, based on the torture I saw in home video tape. I was curios about any follow up.
Then, I saw a question, apparantly a topic for a future show. I was dumbfounded, so I clicked on it.
Under the flash caption, "Be On The Show," they had form fields one could fill about the following "questions:"
be on the show
Are You a Lesbian Who Hates Men? Are you a lesbian who's mad at the world for everything people have done to you? Are you a self-proclaimed bitch who will argue with anyone? Do you know you have anger issues but don't know how to control yourself? Tell us your story.
This is what I wrote:
A "bitch" is a female dog: she is protective of those she loves. She will attack when provoked.
Lesbians don't hate men; they love women. The worst "man-haters" I've ever met were all heterosexual women or gay men: familiarity breeds contempt.
Many Lesbians and pansexual women fear men, just as many men (hetero or not) and almost all hetero women do. Men are only encouraged, in this society, to express 2 emotions: aggression and sexual arousal.
Any man we meet on the street is a potential rapist. Men are, statistically, more likely to commit violent crimes. Male heterosexuals commit most of the incest and child rape.
We don't hate men. Men hate themselves. We FEAR men.
But we aren't sexual with women because of MEN. Men are irrelevent to our love lives. We love women.
Why do you find it necessary to frame this argument this way? Why are you associating woman loving with man hating? Does everything have to center around men, including women who love women? Do you feel threatened by women who don't need you?
Why are you calling Lesbians bitches? Why do you seem to think we are "out of control?" Is it because we're out of YOUR control? Is that so important to you?
I can go months without thinking anything of consequence about any man. Do you see that as threatening: that you're just not that important to me?
Do you frame questions to Black people the way you've framed this series of questions to Lesbians? Do you use racial stereotyping to try to provoke something "worthy" of ratings? Do you do this with the disabled?
Then, why are you using stereotypes that were never true, and that were addressed by the Queer Liberation Movement more than 30 years ago?
Are you insecure in your own sexuality? Do you feel the need to abuse those who aren't like you, in order to force them to either conform to your comfort zone, or, otherwise, alienate them into disappearing from your field-of-vision?
How can you help heal the human mind, while being so blatantly unhealthy?
Thursday, June 08, 2006
Queer memorial in Albuquerque
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Hi everyone,
This evening (June 8) is the time to join with Albuquerque Pride and other members of the GLBT community for the commemorative walk and the dedication (groundbreaking) of a GLBT memorial as part of the Arts in the Park city project at Morningside Park.
Morningside Park was one of the first places Pride was held back in the 1970's and is recognized as the birthplace of Pride here in Albuquerque. Walkers will come from places where Pride started or ended over the years and arrive at Morningside park by 8:00pm. There will be a powerful candlelight vigil and a look back and forward at the GLBT Community. Reception to follow. The city of Albuqeurque Arts in the Park project worked with Pride to create the memorial.
If you want to be part of the commemorative walk from prior years Pride Parade sites to Morningside Park be at the park at 6:30PM. (Rides will take you to the start sites.)
If you just want to be present at the dedication and vigil it starts at the park at 8:00 PM.
Remember it's our history we talking about.
Hope to see you there.
Friday, April 07, 2006
Pledge-A-Picket Fundraiser
Anti-Choice Protest on Good Friday
Every year on Good Friday, anti-choice protesters hold a
demonstration at PPNM's surgical site in Albuquerque. Last year
183 men, women and children turned out to picket and pray - the
largest such gathering ever here. We're expecting another big
crowd this year.
For the privacy and safety of our patients, the clinic is closed
on Good Friday but we hold an annual Pledge-A-Picket fundraiser
to offset the loss of revenue. Individuals pledge to donate a
specific amount per protester - anywhere from five cents to two
dollars.
This year we're expanding the Pledge-A-Picket time frame to
include all the protesters who show up the week of April 10-14.
Typically, we have 3-4 protesters per day. If you
Pledge-A-Picket, we'll count the protesters all week, add that
to the number who show up on Good Friday, and multiply the total
by the amount of your pledge to figure your contribution. If you
pledge 25 cents a picketer and we have 15 protesters during the
week and 190 on Good Friday, we'd multiply 205 x .25 for a total
of $51.25. You may put a cap on your pledge.
Email us at pledge@ppnewmex.org if you'd like to participate in
our Good Friday fundraiser. Please tell us how much you want to
pledge per picketer and if you'd like to cap the amount. We'll
notify you by email after Good Friday to let you know how many
picketers we had and the amount of your donation.
Last year we raised over $4,000 in pledges from our Action
Alert Network. These donations allow us to continue providing
PPNM's high-quality, affordable health care in New Mexico. If
you have questions, please call Development at 265-5976.
Thank you for supporting Planned Parenthood of New Mexico.